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Anyone here actually believes in going after their exes again? I'm asking because I am kind of stuck in a bit of predicament that my ex and I have actually been broken up almost a year already and I've even gone on several dates since the breakup and spent time reflecting back on myself. I pretty much thought I had moved on completely till the other day, when I bumped into her for the first time in forever at some event. We had a decent conversation, and after that my emotions pretty much went out of whack. I've been thinking about her more and more recently, and I'm not sure how one would reconnect with an ex after so long and whether I should even think about it. Any advice?
 

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Best thing I could say is that if you really care then maybe ask her to a simple lunch or dinner and see what happens. Don’t try a move to fast and working being best friends again. Be prepared for what the reason you guys broke up for that you both have to move on from that and put it in the past. Also be prepared she may not feel the same way and that’s ok. At least you tried and didnt have to ask yourself “what if”. Sometimes time is the best thing for any relationship. Good luck.
 

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This probably isn't going to be the same as your experience BUT I did this ONCE (got back together) and it didn't work out for round 2 either. Actually, I had already been dating (somewhat seriously) someone else for about 8 months already when my 'ex and I had a run-in because his mom died and he was taking it really hard (I went to the funeral as I was friends with her). Anyway, I was there for him as a friend during his tough time and limited my time spent with him with my current boyfriend fully aware of what was happening. To make a long story short, after about 2 weeks of checking on him (usually just a few minutes a day sort of thing and normally via phone or email) he sent me flowers and I thought it was just a 'thanks for being a friend' sort of thing but then he asked to take me to brunch as a thank you for being there... I was a bit hesitant (had that funny feeling) but went anyway and that's when he professed how much he still loved me and apologized for how he treated me (I broke up with him because he cheated on me) and said he was a changed man and would apologize to my family and wanted to marry me that weekend (told me he looked at Vegas flights and we could fly to Vegas that night to get married). I was in 'no way' mode and told him that I'm not going to run off and marry him and I needed time to digest everything. I took a day to myself talking to no one about what transpired.. then finally shared the proposal with my then boyfriend and how I left telling him I needed time but no, I was not going to marry him that night. To make a long story short, I came to realize I still had feelings for him (more so than the new boyfriend I came to realize) and decided it time to put his 'new man' to the test. The way it was to be is we were going to live together 6 months.. and if we still felt the same way about each other after 6 months and everything went well, we would get married (I was still open to the Vegas idea after the 6 month time passed). ....I'm sure many reading this can guess what happened, right? 5.5 months in I was thinking everything was going great.... and then he cheated on me AGAIN. I was blown away... we were so happy and everything was 'right'.. or so I thought.. Needless to say, he left and we never spoke again and I have no idea where this man is today (or if he is even alive).. .but in my experience, once a cheater, always a cheater! His father was a cheater, his older brother cheated on his wife (with 2 kids) so he didn't exactly have the ideal family life for good examples either and I don't know if that's why he thought it was okay but that wasn't going to be my life. Do I regret trying it out? Not really because I would have always wondered. I regret how I made the the guy I was dating feel with the abrupt end to our relationship there because he was a good guy but deep down I didn't see us long term either which made it easier for me to make that break-up decision sooner rather than later. Anyway.. I know people can change but in my case he only changed for a short time and then reverted back to his old self always craving the next thing (or whatever drove him I have no idea but it just wasn't the life for me).
 

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Give anything enough time, and it is easy to forget about why it didn't work out the last time around. Dating and trying to get over people never worked for me either.

Go to new places where you won't run into an ex, get to know somebody before you actually both commit to going on a date. Example. Find ways to meet a new person with friends, at a concert, baseball game, whatever floats your boat. That way you can both walk away really easy if you can't hold a decent conversation for more than 10 minutes. Dating is obligations and commitments to put your best foot forward, and 9 times out of 10 only leads to disappointment.

Learn how to be a better version of yourself, every single day, and don't stop. So that way, when the right person comes around, you don't shit the bed.
 

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Duck that shit. There's a reason you got rid of her once. Lol. JK. Idk maybe test resistance between nipples see if they are still good. And does she tongue your gas hole? Make a pros and cons list . masterbate to porn not her a couple times and review your list again. and always remember shit doesnt roll up hill. Guess we will see more of this now that backpage got shut down. Primera Escort Service is my idea and i just patented it.
 

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AHHH upgrade buddy think about the fact that she didnt come after you so that should tell you alot shes possibly done with you and she did an upgrade herself.



love hurts, truth is the best cure......oooohh just made that up
 

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you know this is a car site yeah ? either ride that bitch or forget about her FFS ! one or the other, be a man and make a decision, fuck her or fuck her off
 

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you know this is a car site yeah ? either ride that bitch or forget about her FFS ! one or the other, be a man and make a decision, fuck her or fuck her off
You know this is the "Completely Off Topic" forum, right?

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Ex's are ex's for a reason. Sure, its possible it may work out, but lets be real here. If it was going to work out, it would have the first time. A relationship needs time and effort, saying a relationship isn't effortless is silly, but it shouldn't be 'hard'. If you broke up, theres likely valid reasons on either side that ultimately will fester and come up eventually again. Then the heartbreak is worse x2.

Find someone new, have new experiences with, have your 'first times' all over again, it'll be worth it in the end.
 
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